An Affair to Dismember
Hi Maribeth,
I just found out that my husband is having a thing with another woman. How serious is it? What is going on? Can I talk to her? And should I even do that? Where is my marriage going?
Please help me,
Deceived
Dear Deceived,
Thank you for writing, this is obviously a difficult time for you and I hope it is soon just a bad memory. Whatever the “thing” is that is going on with your husband and the other woman is between them and will have to be resolved between them. Since this is your reading, these cards will address what you need to know in order to get through this with grace and dignity.
The cards are the 6 of Pentacles, the Ace of Swords and The Star. The Ace of Swords shooting up the middle appears the most prominent and powerful card. My first impression of this card combination is: Confrontation Brings Success. Anyone wanting to read the tarot must learn to tune in to their first impressions. They can be mighty accurate.
The Six of Pentacles shows three people, with one attempting to fairly distribute morsels among the other two. The Six of Pentacles is all about generosity. This person is happy to share his riches. However, we all know that within a marriage, three’s a crowd. The scales he is holding indicate that he is conscious of keeping a balance when it comes to how much he gives, and to whom. He doesn’t want to upset the apple cart, you could say. The scarf tied atop his red hat indicates he is containing his sexual energy, holding back.
The hand on the Ace of Swords looks like you taking matters into your own hands, cutting through the smoke and mirrors and getting to the truth. You need more information from him about what is going on. The tight grip the hand has on the sword is the only indication of emotion in this card. This is mind over matter. You need to ask serious questions in order to put your mind at ease. Not uncovering something that is hidden but rather getting to the source of what is going on. As his wife, you have “hand”; you have a right to know. The crown along with the palm and olive branches on top of the sword show your intended triumph in the outcome of the discussion. That attitude will help you get directly to the point.
The Star is about exposure. Once you help your husband to expose his feelings and you expose your own, you will have a better attitude about things. Communication and honesty are your keys to success here. It is important not to take this personally. Guard against feeling such as, “Why am I not enough?” As difficult as it will be, it is to your advantage to think more with your mind and less with your heart in order to come to a resolution that you feel good about. The Star card brings good news: a significant renewal of energy, truth unmasked and faith in a better future.
I wish you much courage in approaching your husband and much success in sharing a truthful and rewarding discussion with him.