Sins of the Guests
Dear Maribeth,
My husband and I live in Newport. Now that the summer is here, our home has become a popular destination for friends and family. We are within walking distance to downtown. My question is, what to do with our guests that walk into town, enjoy the food, fun and libations, but are unable to walk home, without our help!
While we love them all…this has become tiresome for us. Interventions are out of the question! Please help
Summertime and the living is easy?
Mimi
Newport
Hello Mimi,
Sounds like your friendships are weighing on you! I posed your question to the cards and we got the Tower, the Page of Pentacles and the Two of Cups. It looks like the childish and irrational behavior of your friends and family is beginning to interfere in the serene home environment you and your husband wish to share.
The Tower represents upheaval in a most unruly way. People tossing themselves upside down out of a burning building struck by lightning. The crown at the top hints at what was once a successful situation losing its cool. It looks like you are truly afraid of someone falling and getting hurt and are going out of your way to make sure that doesn’t happen. That is a wonderfully responsible attitude, but one that may encourage others not to take responsibility for themselves. If they choose to throw caution to the wind, you may not always be available to rescue them. It is probably not just with you where they are out of control.
The Page of Pentacles indicates a young person accepting the consequences of his actions. This is a very serene landscape, with a plowed field in the background, showing his planning for the future. People who have things to lose take better care of the things they have. This includes friendship as well as material possessions. If your peeps can find those things that are important to them and focus their attention on establishing and maintaining their own harvest, they will be more apt to keep their feet on the ground. Their own self-respect will keep them from needing to be taken care of by you or anyone else.
The Two of Cups is such a gentle card. Yet there lurks the winged lion with the furrowed brow threatening to come between the loving couple. Sometimes we need to show a little disappointment or even anger with our friends in order to get their attention. In the background, beyond the green grassy hills, lies the tiniest little quaint home with a red roof. Your home is your sanctuary, and you have the option to choose those who are welcome there. If people consistently can’t hang and behave as respectable adults, they will have a choice to make. Do they want to be part of a kind and socially responsible atmosphere, or do they want to be a drooling, stumbling fool? Remember Mimi, that decision is completely up to them. But perhaps the line on the ground in this card indicates that you need to meet them in town, and keep your home separate.
I understand these things happen once in a while when people don’t monitor their intake of alcohol, but once it becomes important to them, they will. I’m sure you want your friends and family to feel welcome, and you do live in a vacation wonderland where people can and will let loose. You can’t change their behavior, but can encourage them through example and through your support to be the best they can be. There is lots of room for growth for these people, and hopefully they will blossom and be more considerate of everyone else around them who are concerned for their safety.